08 Children and Families

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Values about Children - East Wind

Values about Children EW-E2
East Wind


Kids emotions are OK; expressing them is OK - our job is to help them express those emotions without hurting anyone.

We can't make somebody feel happy or sorry or not angry; and we shouldn't try to nor try to make co act differently than they feel.

Kids can yell or cry or "Bang Bang" in their space. It's the adult's responsibility to go away from the noise if it bothers them. If there is some reason the meta can't leave the room (baby in the bathtub, cooking, etc.), co can ask the child to go to another room.

When possible, pay attention to the child's crying or yelling without giving in to it. Empathize with co's distress and put works to it when appropriate ("You're very angry that you got bumped")

Don't assume you should distract or hush or "fix things" for or question a crying child. Sometimes they just need somebody to hear their emotions. (Of course, if it's a question of physical injury, you should do first aid as necessary!)

We can try to talk about an incident after the child is calm, but it's not always necessary.

Joyful squeals and screams should also be accepted and valued and only sent outside if other kids are sleeping or the people who are disturbed can't leave the room.

Our Homeschooler Goes to School - Mettanokit - 1987

Our Homeschooler Goes to School MN-B4

by Emmy Rainwalker, Spring 1987

I could tell my son Tokeem had something on his mind when he asked me to take a long walk one day last fall. Tokeem, ten years old at the time, has been homeschooled since birth. The following is a conversation he initiated with me on that walk:

Children at Dandelion - 1988

Children at Dandelion DN-F

Name...sienna 5/30/01 1988

History For the first several years of Dandelion's existence (1975-1980) there were no children living at Dandelion; it was felt that with few members and a great deal of other work to be done in getting established, the community could not afford to have children, or at least not to raise them in the kind of atmosphere and with the kind of facilities and attention that was thought desirable. Subsequently, several children were born at the community, and several others of varying ages have lived here for periods of one to three years. Several of us are also parents of grown children, and have had extensive experience with children both outside and in community.

Child Program - East Wind - 1997

Child Program EW-E1
East Wind

East Wind's child program changes with the breezes. It's gone from kibbutzian-style communal raising of the children with the kids living in separate buildings, to a no-structure each family does what it wants type arrangement. Regardless of the structure, our childcare philosophy reflects our communal values, in particular equality and nonviolence. We encourage cooperation rather than competition in learning and playing, encourage non-sexism and independence. We generally believe in a rational approach to child rearing as the means of discovering what is best for the child in a given situation.

Joyous Childraising - Mettanokit

Joyous Childraising MN-B2

Mettanokit Community
Another Place, Rt. 123
Greenville, NH 03048
(603) 878-3117

A Forum For Improving Our Parenting Skills

Child Program Info - Twin Oaks - 1994

Child Program Info TO-F1
Twin Oaks

March 94

This is a letter about pregnancies and adoptions at Twin Oaks that we want all potential members to read.

Sexual Activity Proposal - Twin Oaks - 1989

Sexual Activity Proposal TO-F2
Twin Oaks

BY Child Sexual Assault Ad Hoc Comittee
Aaron, Christy, Donna, Ira, Ross and Trisha

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